The Real Reason You Don’t Focus on What’s Important

Bruce Lee said, “The successful warrior is the average man, but with laser-like focus.” What he should have added is, laser-like focus on what’s important. Because, it’s not enough to just know what actions are most important. We need discipline and systems to not get caught up in things that are urgent and demanding immediate attention, but aren’t important in the long term. Like one of my CEO clients who ran a real estate development firm and was having conversations […]

How To Micro-Cize Your Life

It always takes me by surprise. When I give my presentation on “how to get a mental six-pack,” I ask the audience, so what’s your biggest takeaway? In my mind, I’m thinking it’ll be something like “I didn’t realize we have to master our biology in order to change” or “now I have a model for mapping out the stress factors in my office dynamics.” But no. The single most popular takeaway is that we have to set “micro goals: […]

“I See You.” How to Catch People Doing Things Right…

I was coaching a healthcare executive who’s caught between a rock and a hard place. The staff at his hospital are unhappy and at one point threatened to quit en masse if changes weren’t made. Why? They feel taken for granted and unappreciated. This executive is someone with great integrity and commitment to developing his leadership skills . “But what can I do?” he asked. It takes time to meet individually with everyone. He already has so much to do, he […]

How To Believe It Before You See It

Too often, we get it backwards. We think it’s when we reach our big goal – the seven-figure revenues, ideal weight or championship trophy — that we can believe it’s possible. In fact, we have to embrace our vision before it actually happens: “You’ll see it when you believe it,” said Wayne Dyer. That’s what Roger Federer proved when he won Wimbledon again this year, after not winning a major tournament for five years (!), even as many publicly expressed […]

[PODCAST] Flow Mastery (Not Hacking), with Jiro Taylor

Download Listen in a New Window iTunes Stitcher SoundCloud Leave a Review Clammr It Subscribe via RSS Subscribe on Android Back in August 2008, Jiro Taylor was, in his words “fat, unfulfilled and full of fears.” As a headhunter for hedge funds and investment banks in Hong Kong, he “sat alongside a team of hustlers in suits and tie, on the 36th floor of a skyscraper, and talked shit all day long.” For awhile, the life of a deal-maker — […]

[PODCAST] The Courage to Be Authentic (and Why It’s the Secret to Greater Productivity and Speed in Building Your Company), with Andrea Shillington

Download Listen in a New Window iTunes Stitcher SoundCloud Leave a Review Clammr It Subscribe via RSS Subscribe on Android As an international brand strategist Andrea Shillington built brands for Fortune 500 companies, seven star hotels and governments including the United Arab Emirates. She then pivoted, launching Brands for the Heart to help visionary entrepreneurs develop authentic brands. We talked about her journey to living a more authentic life after she achieved all the markers of success early in her […]

What You Can Learn About High Performance From A Junior High School Teacher

Dave Brodkey teaches shop class to sixth to eighth graders at New Brighton Middle School near Santa Cruz, CA. Eleven and twelve year olds are typically not known for their sustained attention at school so when Brodkey told me his students consistently get into a state of flow — or what he calls the “quality zone” — in his classes, I had to learn more. Indeed, it turns out he’s intuitively and brilliantly incorporated all the key components that encourage flow states. […]

[PODCAST] Becoming Fit and Legit: How a Former Drug Dealer Founded ConBody and Turned His Life Around, with Coss Marte

Download Listen in a New Window iTunes Stitcher SoundCloud Leave a Review Clammr It Subscribe via RSS Subscribe on Android Starting at the age of 13, Coss Marte built a $2M cocaine-and-marijuana empire in New York City before getting busted. While serving time, he developed a bodyweight exercise program that he could do in a 9’x6′ prison cell — he lost 70 pounds and went on to help his fellow inmates lose a total of 1,000 pounds. Once released, he […]

Are You Still Using Training Wheels on the Bicycle of Life?

Last weekend, here in Paris, I went with my sister, Carolyn, and her three kids, Emeraude, Henry and Ferdinand, to the Bois de Vincennes to do some bike-riding. For the last two summers, Emeraude and Henry had started learning to ride a bike when they visited their Grandpa George in Concord, MA but hadn’t succeeded in riding without training wheels. When we got to the bike rental spot, however, the man said he didn’t have any bikes with training wheels.  So for 30 minutes, with Ferdinand’s […]

[PODCAST] Mental Control Under Pressure, with Lanny Basham

Download Listen in a New Window iTunes Stitcher SoundCloud Leave a Review Clammr It Subscribe via RSS Subscribe on Android Lanny Bassham started off life as a loser. In elementary school, he could never win any of the races, so he decided he’d have a better chance in team sports. When trying out for Little League baseball, he was the last person picked, put out in right field and promptly got hit by the ball right between the eyes. Then he tried out […]