The Judge, the Jury and Something Unexpected

“I never want to do this again.” “I’m so stressed.” “I haven’t been sleeping.” “Next time, I will make sure I don’t get chosen.” Two men from Ghana were on trial for dealing drugs, and we were the jury. And after three days of listening to witnesses’ testimony and four more in deliberation — cooped up in a room every day for 7½ hours with 11 strangers – we were feeling pretty resentful about the demands of this civic obligation. But when we […]

What To Do When You Can’t Get Into The Groove

Today was one of those days. Sluggish. Unfocused. Namby pamby. There wasn’t even a specific reason to point to: I’m 100% healthy, fully carbed, well-rested and pain-free, with plenty of interesting projects in the pipeline. I tried the usual slew of strategies to get a mental jumpstart – calisthenics, watching a pep talk from Kid President, journaling, even a 10-minute nap – but simply could not get into the groove. As high performers, we’re used to operating at, or close […]

How To Keep On Keeping On When You’re Doing Everything You Can And Nothing’s Happening

Know the feeling? You’re doing all the right things – being consistent, following up with prospects, knocking 72 tasks off your to-do list every day. The pedal’s to the metal, and yet you don’t seem to be getting anywhere. To add insult to injury, it seems as if everyone — everyone! — you talk to is on fire, signing big deals, making partner or being featured in Fast Company. If you asked him, martial artist Bruce Lee would say: “There […]

Think Big, Start Small

You know how to eat an elephant, right? One bite at a time. When it comes to elephants, we get it – there’s no way we can eat one all at once. When it comes to our own goals however, we tend toward an all-or-nothing approach. (Which explains Blue Monday, a theory by psychologist Dr. Cliff Arnall, who came up with a mathematical formula determining that the third Monday of the year is statistically the saddest day of the year. Makes […]

We Are Creatures of Habit, Not Resolutions

New Year’s Resolutions are a joke. I mean, do you know anyone who’s ever stuck to theirs past the first few weeks of January? The problem, as you may have noticed, is that people come up with their grandiose resolutions without thinking through how they’ll actually have to adapt their behavior to get there (and maybe examining why it didn’t happen the last five years they had the exact same resolution!). I suggest doing it backwards. As creatures of habit, […]

Navy SEALs, “Full-Contact Living” and a Quick Jumpstart

This Friday, I’m attending a memorial service for one of the Navy SEALs who was on the helicopter downed in Afghanistan while rescuing Army Rangers. I met Special Operations Chief Brian Bill briefly back in April when he gave a presentation to the Navy SEAL RDAC, an organization that prepares candidates for the rigors of BUD/S training (and where I provide mental toughness mentoring). The SEALs and their special operations counterparts “conduct these missions night after night knowing that every […]

To Conform or Not to Conform, That Is the Question

“Society everywhere is in conspiracy against the manhood of every one of its members. The virtue in most request is conformity. Self-reliance is its aversion. It loves not realities and creators, but names and customs.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Coming off the Independence Day holiday here in the US, it occurred to me that too many of us don’t actually fully embrace our right to “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness:” i.e. the freedom to live our lives in […]

[Flow Tip #13] Transport Yourself

In my ebook, Focused and In the Flow, I came up with 21 tips for getting into the flow. Here’s tip #13 and a Nike ad that shows you how it works: Not inspired or excited by your immediate environment? Why not imagine a different one. Children do it all the time, transforming the living room into a haunted castle, one minute, or a jungle filled with spies, in the next. Why tether yourself, in spirit, to the same old […]

No Excuses

Too old, too young, too stressed, not enough time, not enough space, not enough energy, too cold, too hot, too early, too late…we are incredibly resourceful in coming up with reasons why it’s never quite the right time to change the status quo. The fact is, there will always be some condition that is less than ideal. Watch this Nike ad with Matt Scott (one of the guest speakers in my recent Mental Toughness Telesummit), and then let me ask […]