The Time I Got Busted Not Paying Attention

On Saturday afternoons, I take one of my favorite class workouts, Forza, based on samurai sword fighting, with martial arts fitness instructor Ilaria Montagnani. After the warm-up and technical exercises, we learn two combinations, each a series of 16 moves – half cuts, diagonals, horizontals, for example – combined with squats and specific footwork moving backward, forward, sideways and diagonally. Once we’ve learned the combination, we repeat it, without stopping, for five to six minutes. For years now, we’ve done […]

Why You’re Not Getting What You Want

“What do you want?” I asked my client, who had salvaged a major project for the company and was disappointed that the CEO wasn’t articulating his appreciation for her efforts. Well, he had said “good job” in one of his emails but apparently that wasn’t what she was looking for. It turns out, however, she didn’t know exactly what she wanted. All she knew is that she felt like she wasn’t getting it. That seems to be the case with […]

What A Flight Attendant Can Teach Us About Creating Certainty in An Uncertain World

Recently, on a cross-country flight from New York to California, the flight attendant announced: “We’re heading into a thunderstorm so the seatbelt sign will be on for the next 45 minutes. Feel free to get up and use the bathroom if necessary but keep in mind that we will remind you to return to your seats as quickly as possible.” As a student of neuroscience, I was impressed by the attendant’s understanding of the “fight-or-flight” threat response. Because typically, what […]

Mental Toughness in Leadership

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE Peak Performance Strategist Renita Kalhorn to Present Free Online “Mental Toughness Summit” Virtual Telesummit to Highlight “Mental Toughness in Leadership” Held April 29 – May 3 With Speakers Dianne Collins, Brent Gleeson, Les McKeown and Other Thought-Leaders. NEW YORK, N.Y. Wednesday, April 10, 2013 The Mental Toughness Telesummit, a free online event to be held April 29 – May 3, brings together bestselling authors, behavioral psychologists, Navy SEAL combat veterans and start-up entrepreneurs to show how leaders […]

What Are Your Rules?

A few weeks ago, at the Dark Knight shooting in Aurora, Colorado, there were a number of media stories about Jamie Rohrs who went to see the movie with his girlfriend and their two children. When the shooting started, he tried to retrieve his son but eventually jumped over the balcony and fled. “It just felt like the worst thing ever because my son’s still in there,” he told ABC News. “My girlfriend is still in there. I’m out here. […]

Yes or Yes: How to Make Fewer Decisions

A married couple was celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary. At the party everybody wanted to know how they managed to stay married so long in this day and age. The husband responded, “When we were first married we came to an agreement – I would make all the major decisions and my wife would make all the minor decisions. And now, after 60 years of marriage, I can truthfully say that we have never needed to make a MAJOR decision. […]

How To Make Reality Catch Up Faster

In the late 1970s, Jim Fannin was coaching Adriano Panatta, one of the top-ranked tennis players in the world and a former French Open champion. He tells the story of  Panatta’s quarterfinal match with one of the newcomers at an ATP tournament. “As the match unfolded, this low-ranked, left-handed, red-headed jerk of a guy has no respect for a top-ranked player in the world. He stalls. He berates an umpire. He yells at a ball kid. He crushes my player! We […]

He Who Sleeps, Wins

“In my long political career,” Bill Clinton told a post-presidency audience, “most of the mistakes I made, I made when I was too tired. Too many members of the Congress in both parties are sleep deprived. It clouds your judgment, and it undermines your ability to be relaxed and respectful in dealing with your adversaries.” Great, the US government is run by people who don’t get enough sleep. A bravado culture of sleep deprivation Actually, in the frenetic pace of […]

Why You Need To Trust Your Gut (Don’t Take My Word For It)

When my siblings and I were growing up, our health-conscious mom would vigilantly moderate our family diet according to the latest health findings reported in the newspaper. When a research study reported that egg yolks led to high cholesterol levels, my dad’s two sunny-side up habit was dramatically affected. Then, lo and behold, a few years later, a different study found that egg yolks were healthy after all in moderation, and they reappeared at our breakfast table. Facts Fade Fast […]

How Monkeys, Jam and Fencing Can Help You Make Decisions Quickly and Confidently

Equinox Gym has 18 26 locations in New York City, and I have an all-access pass, which means I can go to any of them. This offers fantastic variety for mixing up my workouts but also means that planning my workouts each week can become a logistical nightmare. In addition to choosing between my eight or nine regular classes, I have to factor in whether one of my favorite instructors is teaching, travel time to the gym, proximity to a business […]