How To Micro-Cize Your Life

It always takes me by surprise. When I give my presentation on “how to get a mental six-pack,” I ask the audience, so what’s your biggest takeaway? In my mind, I’m thinking it’ll be something like “I didn’t realize we have to master our biology in order to change” or “now I have a model for mapping out the stress factors in my office dynamics.” But no. The single most popular takeaway is that we have to set “micro goals: […]

[PODCAST] Debunking the Common Myths About Performing Under Pressure, with Dr. JP Pawliw-Fry

Download Listen in a New Window iTunes Stitcher SoundCloud Leave a Review Clammr It Subscribe via RSS Subscribe on Android Dr. JP Pawliw-Fry is a psychologist and international performance coach to Olympic athletes and coaches, senior business leaders at Fortune 500 companies, and the CIA. He is the co-author of Performing under Pressure: The Science of Doing Your Best When It Matters Most. In this podcast, we talk about some of the common misconceptions about performing under pressure (and why they’re […]

How To Feel Less Defensive

“Have you ever been incarcerated?” When I was mentoring at Defy Ventures, an organization that trains formerly incarcerated individuals for employment and entrepreneurship, I learned that that was the question participants dreaded most in a job interview (and understandably so, since it often meant the end of the interview). Though, for most of us, the question we dread being asked may not be as damning, we all have one that puts a pit in our stomach: What’s your market traction? […]

The Curse of Finishing Second (and Five Habits of Happy High-Achievers)

After finishing third in the men’s 100 meter race at the Rio Olympics this week, bronze medalist Andre de Grasse excitedly embraced Usain Bolt, who had taken the gold. While Andre and Usain were hugging it up, silver medalist Justin Gatlin looked less than thrilled, lost, no doubt, in counterfactual thought about “what might have been.” As Seinfeld points out, “If you win the gold, you feel good. If you win the bronze, you think, well, at least I got something. But if […]

Five Words For Laser Focus At Work

Once upon a time, in a land far, far away, there was a kingdom where the people would go to their office every morning and there, they would begin one, single task, and merrily continue doing it until they finished — without interruption or distraction — before starting the next one. Ha, that’s definitely a fairy tale. Here, in the real world of mostly nonlinear work, a typical day at the office more likely entails constant switching between a myriad of […]

[WORKSHOP] High-Stakes Performance: Getting It Done When It Counts

Presenting to the board or making a pitch to investors. Closing a deal. Negotiating your next promotion or share of the bonus pool. There are no do-overs, the stakes are high and the audience may or may not be receptive. Though it’s natural to be nervous, if you don’t manage your thoughts and emotions, they will probably derail your performance. This workshop will cover four key areas to help you master your inner game: 1. practice under pressure – how […]

Mental Toughness in Leadership

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE Peak Performance Strategist Renita Kalhorn to Present Free Online “Mental Toughness Summit” Virtual Telesummit to Highlight “Mental Toughness in Leadership” Held April 29 – May 3 With Speakers Dianne Collins, Brent Gleeson, Les McKeown and Other Thought-Leaders. NEW YORK, N.Y. Wednesday, April 10, 2013 The Mental Toughness Telesummit, a free online event to be held April 29 – May 3, brings together bestselling authors, behavioral psychologists, Navy SEAL combat veterans and start-up entrepreneurs to show how leaders […]


I have a surgeon crush. His name is Atul Gawande and he’s pretty much the patron saint for high-achievers everywhere. In addition to being a practicing general and endocrine surgeon and professor at Harvard Medical School, he’s a recipient of the prestigious MacArthur (a.k.a. “Genius”) award, and author of three New York Times best-selling books, Better: A Surgeon’s Notes on Performance, Complications and The Checklist Manifesto. Personal Best And yet, in his latest article, Coaching A Surgeon: What Makes Top Performers […]

How to Focus Your Way Out of a Tough Spot (And Avoid Choking Under Pressure Part III)

Over the weekend, I was out in Greenwich, CT to coach Navy SEAL candidates on mental toughness. Every month they show up for the Physical Screening Test (PST), which includes timed push-ups, pull-ups, sit-ups, a 1.5 mile run and a combat-style swim. The minimum standards are pretty rigorous and every month they’re expected to improve on the previous month’s scores. Needless to say: they’re under pressure and scrutiny. During my mental toughness brief, one of the candidates asked: “What should […]