The Curse of Finishing Second (and Five Habits of Happy High-Achievers)

The Curse of Finishing Second (and Five Habits of Happy High-Achievers)

After finishing third in the men’s 100 meter race at the Rio Olympics this week, bronze medalist Andre de Grasse excitedly embraced Usain Bolt, who had taken the gold. While Andre and Usain were hugging it up, silver medalist Justin Gatlin looked less than thrilled, lost, no doubt, in counterfactual thought about “what might have been.” As Seinfeld […]

Are You Leveraging the Power of Curiosity?

Are You Leveraging the Power of Curiosity?

My dad likes to tell this story from my childhood: I was three years old, we were eating dinner and my mom chastised me for chewing with my mouth open, saying “That’s how pigs eat.” My immediate response: “Do cows do it too?” Apparently, I’ve always been curious about behavior, bovine and otherwise.  Over the years, […]

How To Feel (A Little) Better

How To Feel (A Little) Better

Back in 2007, I went to a weekend marketing conference in Los Angeles. Every morning for three days, a group of 500 business owners gathered in the big hotel ballroom for a day of speaker presentations and panels. And every morning, an unbelievably cheery emcee came bounding out onto the stage, starting belting out some Broadway-style […]

The Secret to Happiness (No, Really)

The Secret to Happiness (No, Really)

Recently, I was talking with an app developer and congratulating him for having hundreds of thousands of users. “No,” he said, shaking his head, “it doesn’t mean anything until you have a million users.” “Really?” I said, thinking I’d be pretty psyched if I had that many people on my mailing list. “But, in the […]

How To Make Reality Catch Up Faster

How To Make Reality Catch Up Faster

In the late 1970s, Jim Fannin was coaching Adriano Panatta, one of the top-ranked tennis players in the world and a former French Open champion. He tells the story of  Panatta’s quarterfinal match with one of the newcomers at an ATP tournament. “As the match unfolded, this low-ranked, left-handed, red-headed jerk of a guy has no […]

What Is Flow Anyway?

What Is Flow Anyway?

You know that feeling when you’re so fully immersed in an activity — an engrossing conversation, say, or a riveting mystery novel, a challenging game of tennis — that you lose track of time, your self-consciousness falls away and life seems effortless? That’s being in the flow. It’s a phenomenon that Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a professor […]